For sale: Family values?
Thursday, May 10, 2007
You read property mogul Kwek Leng Beng’s gung-ho outlook on property prices in yesterday’s The Business Times and your eyes glaze with dollar signs.
The property bull may keep charging on till 2012 or beyond! says the Hong Leong Group executive chairman, whose astute eye on property prices is almost always spot on. In the first quarter, it has risen by 4.8per cent.
You whip out your calculator. You dream of selling your family home. You salivate over a windfall…
And greed takes over.
Then your eyes fall on your stubborn or potentially sneaky father or mother, son or daughter, brother or sister.
They’ll never agree, you think. Will they stand in my way?
And what if they take a big chunk of the money and run off?
CAN I TRUST THEM?
And suddenly, you start looking at them in a different, dark light.
Money as the root of all evil? That’s a no-brainer. Another no-brainer: That Singapore families bank most of their hopes on the value of their property, that the bulk of our savings is tied up in property.
Property, dear boy, you can’t go wrong with property in Singapore. And so mums and dads buy, and then will their property to their children.
And so, when the time comes to cash in, family values, even filial piety, is threatened.
A quick reading of the property disputes in the past 12 months suggest this is becoming, increasingly, Singapore’s unique version of the property bubble.
Wills, deeds, many minds and one big, big decision can mean squabbles for some families, and full-blown wars for others.
As if in tandem with rising property prices, there seems to be an increase in the number of families torn apart by court disputes over property gains.
There is the Tan family, whose squabble has become very ugly and very public (and some say, very petty), on pages 2 and 3.
There was the ugly $100-million fight among relatives over the decrepit Mitre Hotel, which ended less than two weeks ago.
There was Madam Hwang Chow, 80, whose story was reported in this newspaper in February. She sued her elder daughter and son-in-law for more than $520,000, which she claimed was her share of the profits after the sale of a house.
The case was settled, with Madam Hwang getting an undisclosed amount.
Happy ending? No. She now regrets that she will never be able to reconcile with her daughter, who died of hypertension three days after court papers were served on her.
At the time her case was reported, Madam Hwang and her granddaughter were no longer on talking terms.
Then there was the Chew family’s court battle, which saw an elderly couple take their eldest son to court for over $1 million.
The bulk of the money was from the $890,000 sale of a shophouse on Cactus Road.
After the parents won in August last year, the father, Mr Chew Tong Seng, 72, told this newspaper: ‘We’ll pretend that we never had such a son. We slogged to raise our children yet this is how he repays us.’
Justice Tan Lee Meng called it a ’sad’ and ‘bitter’ affair.
There have been at least seven cases of families embroiled in legal battles over property in the past year alone. And these were only the ones that were reported.
Families that could and should have been celebrating their windfalls were instead torn apart, bitter, as the judge said, and sad.
And, perhaps, wondering privately how it had come to this.
So as the property bull continues its run and more Singapore families consider cashing in, it may be worthwhile to look at the lessons from such cases and consider issues beyond dollars and cents.
At the micro level: Could this happen to my family? Could greed possibly divide us too?
At the macro level, a pertinent question: In a supposedly Confucianist society, with a premium placed on family values and filial piety, is the basic building block of society in danger of being demolished by greed’s wrecking ball?
Source : The New Paper - 10 May 2007
